Recently I’ve been talking to a colleague who’s been appointed bridesmaid for her friend’s wedding early next year, and boy, when I tell you it’s been crazy, I mean it. From what I’ve heard, brides and grooms are usually stumped at the amount of work that goes into a wedding, no matter how they’ve been warned, especially if they choose to do so without a wedding planner. From the smallest of things — such as sending out invites — to the biggest, like booking a band and venue, the couple has endless items on their to-do list to make sure their wedding is a success. I’ve always said that such events and occasions can be extremely overwhelming, but all it takes is some organisation to lessen your load a little! Instead of a haphazard list in your mind (which I am usually extremely guilty of), call on the help of your trusty friends and family, as well as physical lists and books! They can help you out unimaginably.
Be it a journal, a diary, a digital application, the native Notes application on your iPhone, I would strongly recommend an avenue that lets you get detailed with all your preparation, and gives you ample space to plan out your budget, venues, ceremonies, bands, photographers, and what have you. If you’re someone who needs bullets and sub-bullets and sub-sub-bullets, it would be best to with something physical you can write in, because you can personalise it as much as you want. After all, you would something that lets you have the most comfort so that you can plan out your wedding perfectly.
If you have no idea what you’re getting into, a guided journal would be optimum. Revel’s guided journal offers sections for budget planning, checklists, guest lists, ceremonies, table settings, and gifts amongst others. These guided journals are bound to let you breathe a little more solely because some of the organisation is already done for you! Instead of having to think of everything from scratch, the basics and essentials of your wedding are already there for you to fill in, and you only have to worry about anything extra you might want on your special day to make it uniquely yours.
Diaries and Applications
If you have already know what you want, or have guidance from a friend or family member, you may find that planning your own wedding from scratch might be what you prefer. From blank diaries to digital note-taking applications, your options are anything but limited.
If there’s any time to ask for help, it’s when you’re planning your wedding. Don’t be afraid to bother people (too much); I’m sure the people you ask would want your wedding to go off without a hitch as well! Other than your immediate family, don’t forget to ask your best friends to be your bridesmaids and groomsmen.
Wedding planners and event planners could be of great help if you’re short on time or extremely busy with other aspects of your life. With such help, you often just to have to keep an eye on things, and leave the worries and stress to your hired help. That being said, such an option can be costly to many — but weddings are not impossible to plan without professional planners! In fact, you may be more creative and innovative without help, since professional planners usually have a set list of venues and caterers that they would recommend to you.
Bridesmaids and Groomsmen
Your bridesmaids and groomsmen are going to be of extreme help to you! So make sure you ask them early enough to give them time to prepare and know what exactly the role entails, especially if it’s their first rodeo. From helping the bride pick out a wedding dress to helping the groom choose the wedding rings, your bridesmaids and groomsmen will offer opinions and support when you need them the most (and even when you don’t really need them). Revel has some cute groomsmen and bridesmaids invitations that you could send out just to make them feel a little special too!
There will be tasks neither you nor your bridesmaid/groomsman will be able to get to, and at times like these don’t hesitate to ask a close friend or a family member for help. Be it picking up cake samples, or dropping by a paper shop to collect invitations, asking for a small favour can be of immense help! Many would-be brides and grooms might feel like a bother, but I’m sure the other party would understand! (And you can always pay them off with an extra slice of cake at the wedding anyways ;))
Think of the Setting
A quick Google search for anything wedding-related would lead you directly to American or European wedding tips. Be sure to remember that Singaporean weddings are different. Not only could they be influenced by your race and/or religion, but the weather, too, plays a part in planning your wedding.
Singapore is HOT: all of us know this. As such, when making your wedding plans, don’t forget to think about ventilation, cooling systems and the time of day (if choosing an outdoor setting). It might seem ambitious to think of this before planning anything else, but considering Singapore’s climate can set you off in more clear direction. Thinking of venues, drinks, and the menu with weather considerations would help out with your budget and save you time by cutting down ideas that might not be feasible locally.
I won’t lie, weddings are extremely stressful to plan, and even with all the tips above they will continue to be. However, hopefully, with these recommendations, the worries aren’t as great. By breaking down and delegating tasks, any event — be it big or small — does become easier to manage and I hope that these ways do help you in doing so!